Salsa High

by barbara on February 17, 2012

THIS IS THE SECOND ENTRY IN A SERIES CALLED, “SALSA MEMORIES” – LOOKING BACK AT MY EARLY SALSA DAYS…
It was first published November 24, 2006.

“Salsa High”

Salsa dancing reawakens in us an ancient yearning to move with freedom and in deep flow with another human being. This magical sense of connection happens so seldom in our lives, that discovering the mere possibility of it in something as seemingly simple as a dance is a profound surprise. At least it felt that way to me.

I was sent indirectly to Salsa by Anna Fuerstenberg, the director of my one-woman show called, Crossroads. Our plans to lengthen the show and to tour widely led her to caution me about what was coming; “We need a lot more choreography in this, Barbara. You’ve gotta learn how to dance.”

I am a singer. I write songs. I’ve been performing on stage since I was seven. I can move. But dance? No, I don’t really dance. Still, with the glove thrown down by a tough director, I felt compelled to at least try it out. She suggested Tango (one of the songs in my show is a tango). But I chose Salsa as a less rigid, smoother type of dance. And by a stroke of good timing, a close friend also had a yen to learn the Salsa. She did the research and found the studio. And so on one warm early-fall evening, we walked into the glowing mirrored dance studio named, Studio Via Salsa to take our first class.

Magical Studio Via Salsa
Hong Quy, who owns and runs the studio, (now closed, unfortunately) is a compact ball of explosive elegance with a molten heart. Strong in both mind and body, she repeats the “basic Salsa steps” (which she must have done several thousand times before) with an ardor and passion that surprises me and makes me feel personally responsible for my lack of agility. (I must work harder.)

Her main goal in these early sessions seems to be to convince the ten or so of us that we can and will learn how to make this complicated dance happen – with style.

Hong Quy’s male counterpart is Anthony Kennedy. Lithe and graceful with a smooth, masculine energy, he radiates a sensuous Latin perfume in his liquid movement as he demonstrates the steps with Hong Quy. Whereas Hong Quy’s style is crisp and spare, Anthony is all waves – deep ripples of motion. They make a classy duo dancing in front of we neophytes who – (if I can speak for the others, based on the feeling in the room) – are beginning to sense the seduction of Salsa.

The pleasure of the first few classes, along with Hong Quy’s assurance that we can do this, leaves me optimistic about the process. In fact, I feel giddy at the end of these classes and leave laughing. I tell my friend “I can’t believe I am saying it, but this is great!”

Two Become One
It may be that these two instructors have a special gift – I have heard from other dancers that Studio Via Salsa is a particularly well-liked operation. But I sense my lightness of spirit also has something to do with the feeling of being in close dance-motion with another person. (At the earliest of classes, we began to dance with partners.)

As a performer, I have for the most part, been on stage alone over the years: solo, save for a single pianist or simply by myself on stage talking with or singing to an audience. I enjoy the intimate and somewhat dangerous demands of a solo performer -“communicate something compelling or leave the stage.”

So this challenge to dance in sync with another person is new for me. And even when we are tripping over one another’s feet, there is still a glimmer of what it might be like to move as one to the rhythmic, almost trance-like, pulsing Latin sound. I realize that I am hooked.

Saturday Night Fever
A couple of weeks go by and then Hong Quy invites us to attend a Saturday night soirée. This is an evening of dance that is open to all levels of classes. It starts at 8PM and the dancing can go on until 2AM. I am a bit concerned about inflicting my early-stage dancing ability on unsuspecting male partners. But my friend wants to go, so I agree.

The lights are down low when we enter. The music is loud, hypnotic. Several couples on the floor are a blaze of motion. I watch as one team flashes by – the man giving subtle gestures that cause the woman to twirl and dip and bow. It’s a humbling spectacle.

The Salsa dance is directed by the man. He has the job of getting the woman into position to make various intricate moves; ‘turn left here; now we are going to go sideways together; now your back will be to me; now your arms must go into the air and you must bow,’ and so on. But no words are spoken. This is all done through gestures, body pressure and the all-important, eye contact.

Women must learn to read the man’s signals and respond, almost intuitively, to what is coming next. I am not at that stage. I’m still watching my feet and wondering if they will go backwards or forwards when I command them.Several game men ask me to dance. And I am grateful – because I see that this Saturday evening soirée is a bit like what I remember from the high school dance. The women, who outnumber the men, wait patiently to be asked to the floor. (I notice that few women make the bold move to ask a man.) And so it is a waiting game.

Hong Quy and Anthony are busy keeping people on the dance floor. I can see the careful calculation in their eyes as each of them scans the room to see who has pasion for poetrynot danced and who should be asked next. I suspect that Anthony has the tougher job; if he is to dance with all the single women, he will have to be a whirling dervish for the balance of the night.

While I sit and observe, I wonder how these people came to Salsa dancing. One woman tells me that she lost her husband while still quite young. She was looking for new things to do. A man with whom I dance says he is going through a divorce. He wanted to find social occasions that were not just “bars and clubs.” I believe the younger women are looking for men – they dance with their eyes to the mirror. “How do I look doing this? And who is watching me?”

As the evening goes by, more women are dancing with women. It is quite accepted – and we women new to the dance learn a lot from moving around the floor together. I enjoy the evening, even though I know I must have looked very awkward. People are kind and insist that we come to the next soirée.

Enter the Flow
Two more weeks pass and I decide to take several private lessons at the studio to boost my technique and to get a few more pointers on solo dancing – which is also a beautiful part of Salsa – and something that I will be doing onstage in my solo show.
The first lesson is both fun and humbling. I still lose balance – but my footwork is improving. The second lesson, however, is a revelation.

Anthony, a light-spirited, but demanding teacher, saves a few minutes at the end of the one-hour session to simply dance. “Don’t be a student now – dance!” he commands. He chooses music that has a bluesy feel to it and we begin to move around the floor with a kind of ease that I find both exhilarating and scary. I don’t dare breathe. Something is happening that feels like…“flow.”

No false steps. No looking at feet. We are, for perhaps three or four minutes – joined in some kind of transcendental exercise. It is as though thought became motion. I’m speechless when the song ends. “So this is what it could be like,” I say to myself.

Sweet Surrender
As the weeks go by, my emotion during group classes is one of exuberance. I feel high. But at one point, during a rare calm moment, I realize that there is a strong element of selfishness in thinking only of my own pleasure while dancing. Because I am learning that at its most generous, dancing is a process of surrendering the self to the duo. And in so doing, we become much more than the sum of two people locked in complex motion.

We all share a deep yearning to connect profoundly with others. To feel another heart beat against our heart; to feel the rush of breath as we move together in fluid ease. At its best, dance can do this for us. Salsa does it for me.

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The second article in the series called, “Salsa Memories,” is here: Sex, Pleasure, Love, & Jealousy

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Salsa Memories

by barbara on February 15, 2012

“Sex, Pleasure, Love and Jealousy”

Salsa Clubbing 101

Going to a Salsa club is like entering a theatre where the dance floor is the stage, the dancers are the actors, and “Sex, Pleasure, Love, Jealousy (and sometimes, humiliation)” is the play of the evening.

I wasn’t prepared for the intensity of feeling that the night would bring or for the dramatic results of my innocent first visit.

My friend, Monica suggested after dance class number eight, that we check out a well-known local Montreal club that Saturday evening. I was hesitant.Was it fair (to me or to the expert male dancers who would surely populate the place) to put myself in the line of fire after only 8 weeks of dance classes?During lessons, I was still in panic-counting mode – 123(pause), 567(pause)! Wasn’t this club-crawling idea a bit premature? Monica assured me. “Oh, we won’t dance. We’ll just watch and learn how the club scene works.”

The place opened at 8:30PM and we strolled in at what we thought was a reasonable hour to find some dancing action, 9:30, only to discover that we were the first ones there. With as much cool as we could muster, we each got a drink and settled in at an inconspicuous table to watch the action unfold.  Two white women out on the town.

The wine cooled my jitters a bit. Being a long-time performer, I was pretty concerned about the possibility of being asked to dance and then making a spectacle of myself. I could see the gossip headlines in the local newspaper the next day, “Singer, Barbara Lewis takes a humiliating public tumble (see candid picture) while dancing at a hip Salsa joint!” Surely, it would not happen. Surely, we would be easily pegged as amateurs and left alone in our corner.

At around 10:30, as more people poured in, I felt relaxed and happy. The wine floated through my body while I watched the momentum build on the dance floor. Already there were several pretty impressive couples wheeling about the spacious area.

And then I felt a tap on my shoulder.

A tall, dark, attractive man stood beside my chair. The music was so loud that I could not hear what he was saying. So I nodded my head and gestured, “Yes, this chair is free.” But he wasn’t sitting down and he wasn’t going away. So I stood up to listen to what he had to say – still not imagining that I was being asked to dance.

DANCE #1

pasion for poetry

“Would you like to dance?” he shouted.

“Oh no!” I thought with an inner tremor – the butterflies starting to buzz in my stomach.

 “What should I do?” I mouthed to Monica, who, true to her Irish sense of humor, beamed back at me with merry eyes, “Yes!” she said. “Go and give it a try.”

I pulled the man close to me in a vise grip and sputtered, “I must warn you. I’m not a long-time dancer. I could be a disaster.” I waited for him to walk away, but instead he answered with a serious look, “We’ll see,” as he led me to the dance floor.

There were people sitting at tables all around the floor – but only a few couples were now actually dancing. So my brave new partner and I were very much on display.

A Bachata was playing; 1,2,3 touch, 5,6,7 touch. I didn’t know it well – but thought I could at least follow him. However, when he went one way, I went the other. We stopped and started a few times, but I knew it was no use. We simply were not in sync – neither physically… nor philosophically; his attempt to get me moving in a way that would not embarrass us both was to command me in a high-pitched, tight voice to “relax!”

After all my years of vocal training, and my long-acquired skill of “reading” voices, I knew from his that we were doomed.

Then a salsa began to play and I felt a tendril of optimism rising. I had at the very least danced the salsa for eight full evenings. That expertise might come to my aid. But again, we were not together.

“You have to feel the music!’ he told me with exasperation. Hard for me to disagree with him, but I had been “feeling” music professionally for about 20 years, so again, it was not the right tact to take with me.

Finally, in despair, I suggested that he was simply too good a dancer for me and I led him back to my table where I shrugged and thanked him for the “try.”

Monica was hysterical. She couldn’t contain herself. “What happened?” she cried, tears of laughter running down her face.

“I just flunked Latin 101,” I replied with a deep sigh. I felt badly for the tall attractive man who looked perplexed and a little miffed as he sat at the bar staring hard at me.

And so another half-hour went by, during which time I relaxed once again - unafraid of a second dance request after the very public failure of the first.

DANCE #2

And then I felt another tap on my shoulder.

I stood up immediately – primed to excuse myself – and gazed into the bright, humor-filled eyes of a handsome black man.

I shouted, “Dance with me at your own risk!” He laughed, “Let’s try.”

The dance floor was crowded by now. He took us over to the space near the band where the lights were very bright. It was like being in the floodlights on centre stage.

“Oh, oh,” I thought. “this is not good.”

But as we began to dance, I felt the tension quickly melt away. This gifted dancer was leading me through a fast salsa with little apparent effort. I was performing the moves and the simple turns with ease. I began to laugh. So did he. We were both pleased and relieved that a disaster had thus far been averted.

And things just got better.

We danced through several songs as though we had been dancing together for ages. The man with whom I had failed so miserably earlier in the evening stood at the corner of the dance floor watching me with a look that was part disbelief and part anger. I smiled at him, shrugged and shook my head as if to say that I couldn’t figure it out either.

At a certain point, my fine new dance partner, Marc (not his real name) and I left the floor to rest a bit. He went to his table; I went to mine. But it wasn’t long before he was back.

SMOOTH MOVING “DOG”

“I guess I’m your dog for the night.” he beamed. I hadn’t heard that phrase before, but I was quite happy to spend more time with this very smooth-moving dog.

When we got to the floor, I saw out of the corner of my eye that Monica was also about to dance with a young man – so I settled in with Marc for about an hour’s worth of Salsa, Bachata, and Merengue.

There are times in life when the brain slides into cruise mode. Everything is easy – in a state of flow. I have experienced it fairly often on stage as a singer. I don’t know how it happens – perhaps it is at that point when one’s ability and emotional state fit perfectly with the demands of the moment. And you can relax into a blissful spell.

This was the feeling that I had with Marc as we moved together through the shifting rhythms and moods of many songs. I looked deep into his eyes most of the time, my universe into his, surprised that he was so comfortable with this kind of continuous eye gazing from a stranger.

In my experience, most people cannot sustain direct communication for long. He seemed to find it easy.

As we danced, I could see that he was imagining a precise combination of moves that would keep us going, but not drown me in complication. I began to feel an even greater appreciation for the rather demanding role of male dancers in Salsa. The men drive the car. The women are the engine.

At one point, after I completed a surprisingly easy double twirl, Marc said to me,  “I think you have not told me the truth. You’ve been dancing for years.” I assured him that whatever I was doing well was due to the efforts of my fine dance teacher, Anthony and Marc’s own very advanced skill.

An hour or so later, as night turned into morning, I realized that I must get home to bed if my voice was going to work the next day. Marc quietly slipped me a note with his e-mail address and phone number. “Call me!” he shouted as I walked up the stairs.

A day or so later, after some thought, I did. And that is another story.

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Barbara Lewis is a singer (and sometime salsa dancer) who’s current passion is a new show called, Passionate Heart. 

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